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It has been long since spice was last added to the mix. So lets get it stirred up a bit!

Making my favorite dish the other day, I finished and served my guests only to find a bowl of a very important ingredient left on the counter by the sink! I was astonished, embarrassed and secretly angry with myself for my uncanny oversight!

Although my guests ate to their delight, and complimented the deliciousness of the meal, I thought maybe they were just being nice by paying me such good compliments over a dish whose main ingredient was left out. Then I realized that none of my guests knew that something vital to the dish was left out; so I whispered it to my husband and showed him the bowl containing the spice, and he leaned over and kissed me on the chic and said “you are the best.” Those words sent shivers down my spine, and I told him that I would reply him in bed tonight!

Our guests lingered around for a few hours longer before departing to their home. I thought to myself, what a beautiful way to make a nice evening with real friends. My friend said to me as I walked her out the door, I heard what you told your hubby, girl I will do the same to that man tonight, because guess what he whispered to me while you and your hubby were by the sink, he said to me “you are the best”! I chuckled and said that is exactly what my hubby told me. She said I figured because I saw the giggle and then heard your response.

What a thought process that God impressed on us that night. It brought to life for me the saying that “great minds think alike” and I pondered as my husband and I cleaned up as I thought what tonight would be like when we get in bed.

As my husband made love to me that night, I couldn’t but fixate on the blessing of the love that sparked from a simple omission of an ingredient from my recipe, and thought of the delicacy that was created out of omission, vitality and the commission of an error. I could only think of one thing; never take yourself too seriously!

Love is meant to be expressed in a most meaningful and intimate way between a man and his wife. We create an atmosphere of spontaneous romance that leave long lasting impressions in our hearts by making simple mistakes and turning them into blessings. You can turn your mistake into a mirage of problems or you can choose to turn it into marvelousness in your home and within your marriage, the choice is yours. My take is to turn the most unimportant and uncelebrated moments into a retreat of love to shower your spouse with the kind of love that cannot be gotten outside your home and matrimony.

Most adulterous relationships are focused on planned and intentional sexual pleasures that are premeditated. How do I know this, because I speak to straying spouses, and majority of them seek sexual pleasures from the adulterous partner after a brief preamble; which most side chicks mistake for “he seeks refuge with being with them” a lie that most have bought into to justify their wrong relationships. True romance that fulfills and creates a closer and stronger bond between a woman and her husband are the ones that happen spontaneously from a willing, deliberate and anticipatory heart that is fixed on things above who seeks the good and pleasure of his or her partner in a marriage.

What is your romance like with your spouse? Is it stale, sporadic, non-existent or extinct? Beloved, there is hope. Create an evening of simple meals, double date with trusted married friends, leave out a spice so you may remember to spice up the sex like you hadn’t done in a while. Let your man and or wife feel the zing in the romance tonight and leave him asking for more.

The writer of the Song of Solomon wrote this: “His left hand is under my head, And his right hand embrace me.”

O my love, you are as beautiful as Tirzah, Lovely as Jerusalem, Awesome as an army with banners! Turn your eyes away from me, for they have overcome me…” (Song 2:6, 6:4-5) NKJV

These verses describe the powerfully joyous sexual expression and the overwhelming effect of being in love especially in the purity of marriage that is between a man and his wife.

I am glad that God created love above all things. He also created sex for our own pleasure not to be perverted or shared outside the context of marriage. When you reserve that special place for your husband or your wife, you bring God pleasure because we were created for His pleasure, and we must take pleasure in worshiping Him; because when we love our spouses and put in extra efforts to make love persist in our relationship, our lives ultimately lets off the aroma of clean and pure pleasure before a watching world.

I am grateful for my friends whose visit led to a new spark in my love for our marriages. I am grateful for the blessing of having a husband who still finds me desirable to whisper the most endearing sweet nothings to his bride.

When you surround yourself with the right people, you are bound to rob off on each other. I have chosen to surround myself with couples that fear and respect God enough, who respect their marriage enough to leave room for a NEW SPARK so they may continue to endure till the day of the coming of the bridegroom!

So I encourage you beloved to go for love this week, forget about the ingredients being right or not, go for romance, and let the ingredient of love overwhelm your meal. Don’t be afraid to try something new with your Adam, and let his gentle love lead you to everlasting happiness that flows from the thrown room of the God of LOVE!