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I recall a conversation that I once had with an adversarial woman when asked what did she want with her secrete man, especially when she knew that she was causing a lot of pain to a fellow woman (the man’s wife) she responded “I give him what he can’t get from home, he comes to me for love, comfort and good company…”

I couldn’t help but break it down to this fool, that she must have a very small brain and I thought what a wasted life; to think you can provide another woman’s husband with what you perceive he doesn’t get from home, based on your naivety to believe the lies that he told you!

I read with disgust comments by fellow women on alleged celebrity husband’s indiscretion where women are writing that such wife should accept it and move on. Someone commented that what the wife is going through is normal and not new, after all that our mothers went though it and survived! Really? Did our mothers truly survive it or did they just accept their fate and many died an early death from depression and bitterness that comes from bearing such heavy burden and feeling trapped in a culture of deception and disrespect for woman dignity? Not to mention the satanic exchanges between competing offspring from illicit relationships with the legitimate children and vice-versa! Those of us from Africa origin can relate to my postulations here, come on now.

The nerve of modern day women to dare accept something as evil and debilitating as cheating on one’s spouse as normal. Is it okay for a wife to go out and sleep with other men, get pregnant and bear babies for other men while she is still married to her husband and not get stoned; or will it be considered “normal” and or will the husband be expected to just ‘move on’?

Contrary to disgusting popular opinion on sex in marriage, most women know what to do in the bedroom to satisfy their husbands, and do not need the help or advice of promiscuous good for nothing women suggesting what a woman needs to do to keep her husband at home. It is unfortunate that we have bought into the lie that men are polygamous by nature, so the fallacy makes some men think they are entitled to infidelity.

Another lie circulating the minds of some ladies today is that these men like the mistress more than their wife, hence their hidden relationships. Truth is, a side chick need to realize that she is just one of many other side chicks that a cheating man has. Most men who cheat on their wife do not stop at keeping only one side chick and if you happen to be the one that got pregnant for him, trust me one or two succeeded in aborting their babies or may be carrying one simultaneously with you.

A cheating mistress might act like she is big and bad, and don’t mind sharing another woman’s husband, but believe you me, we know you do mind; because God created humans to be jealous as He is a jealous God himself and when you get in front of yourself in a mirror, all by yourself, we know you cry in guilt and shame. Another truth, just like Saddam Hussein after all the havoc he wrecked on the people of his country, at the end of his life he was found hiding in a hole! Side chicks, mistresses think they are big and bad, but hide in holes like rats!

God created Eve by putting Adam to sleep, because he wanted to create the most beautiful creature that he made up to that point and because He knew that the pain of carving such beauty out of Adam would be unbearable if He did not anesthetize Adam. So it is safe to say that a man’s wife is the most beautiful companion that he has. Yet mistresses live in the illusion that another woman’s husband need something that they don’t get at home!

No woman should accept the lies of fellow women with low self-esteem, whom have given up on their God ordained destiny to be the only well from which their husbands should drink, and buy into the lie that a man cheating on his wife is normal. There is no normalcy in it, and your job as a wife is to LOVE the mess out of your husband, by loving yourself enough to keep yourself for your husband, caring for your temple and offering your marriage daily to the thrown of The God who carved you from your man’s rib.

Though we know the thief goes to and fro seeking the next marriage to destroy, beloved sisters, resolve to meditate in the words of Lamentation 3:22-23 “Through the Lord’s mercies we are not consumed, Because His compassion fail not. They are new every morning; Great is Your Faithfulness..”

God is faithful to refresh the wellspring of your cistern for the man that He has given to you. No matter what the immoral woman sets out to do, may our husbands be cocooned in the embrace of our pure love and may the spirit of hatred for sin overtake our husbands in Jesus name!

Go out this week and impact your sphere with integrity whether people are watching or not by the help of The Holy Spirit who empowers.

If you do not know this Christ or Holy Spirit that I constantly refer to in this blog, take a moment to be still and ask Him into your heart in the quietness of your room, He is present, and will answer anyone that calls upon Him no matter where. Ask Him to be the Lord of your life, forgive you of your sin and confess that you are turning from your previous ways and following Him. He is faithful and just to forgive you of your sins and accept you into His marvelous kingdom!

If you said this prayer for the first time or repeating it after making the wrong turns, I rejoice with you and I do not take it lightly that you took this step. I will be praying for God to lead you to a Bible believing church where you can grow in your knowledge and relationship with Him.

Begin to see yourself in Christ. He longs for our lives to be good testimony to a watching world even to the would be or active mistresses in the dark alleys of rocky marriages!

Dear married sisters, never give up on LOVING the husband that chose you to be his bride. Ask God to love your husband through you because it is hard to love in our own flesh; and by the enduring faith in God who Himself ordained marriage from the beginning, you will find reasons to love the mess out of your man! Let this be your motto this week, “And above all things, have fervent love for one another, for love will cover a multitude of sins”! (1Pet. 4:8, Prov. 10:12)

Bridget