If you are like me, you read through some of the comments made by your friends on Facebook, and many times I can’t but shake my head in disgust; sometimes in amazement of how people actually believe in the fake compliments given on social medium and truly weigh and often times base their relevance and or acceptance on the false comment that people make to them.
Mind you, many who give these false compliments would not even speak to you face-to-face. How do I know, because I attend church, and most people won’t even crack a simple smile at you once they walk out of the sanctuary, much less when they see you at Wal-Mart! Yet, some of them will be the very first to compliment you on social media!
The many things that people do for attention on face book, instagram youtoube etc makes it obvious that the average human being is seeking attention and acceptance; but in doing so many result to looking for love in the wrong places and from the wrong crowd!
Beloved, let your acceptance be anchored on the true identity of whom and whose you are, so you may receive and be clear headed and minded enough to hear the applaud of heaven when the angels give glory to your maker when your ways have pleased The Lord!
Please bear in mind that not all Facebook accolades are fake, since I have not conducted any survey to actually determine how many are or are not, I would dare to suggest that many will agree that lots of people have friends on Facebook that are not even personally known to them.
Then you have the silly grown adults who think adding everyone they see on their supposed ‘real’ friend’s list to increase the number of friends make them important. I call them prostituting for Facebook friends.
For the sake of this post, I will address women, and attempt to crack at the men in future posts. So as a woman, your identity and acceptance should be found in the following:
- Who you are to your maker
- The personal relationship you have with your maker
- How much you love yourself
- Your spouse (if you are married)
- How much people that really know you value you based on your selflessness
- Your children (including the children you join hands in raising, you know how it takes a village to raise a child…) so don’t wait till you have your own biological children to make positive impact on children.
- Your contribution to your community
- Humility and modesty
And the list goes on. I will be unfair if I do not also attempt to list where a woman should NOT base her identity, and an in-exhaustive list would include:
- The Facebook approval of friends, many of whom you do not even know or ever met in real life
- The way you dress based off of excessive clothes especially party uniform (aso-ebi) purchases that you don’t really need
- Excessive facial make-up mostly done by quack make-up artists
- How many fake friends you keep, that cause quarrels between you and your husband.
- The number of owambe parties that you get invited to, and most times not invited to; but you go about begging people to let you know when they have parties so you can attend and feel important and be part of the side crowd
- The car that you drive or don’t drive
- How many Bible verses you can quote on Facebook, yet your handwork when no one is around is despicable
- The number of gele that you buy in a year, disgustingly in car trunk after church, just to please the seller and be accepted by them at parties and on Facebook, and call you “ore.” By the way, many who attend church to sell items do so just for one and one purpose only EXPLOITATION. They exploit you, exploit the church, and feed their greed for tax-free income thereby exploiting the state as well while turning the house of God into a “den of thieves”!
- The often ridiculous looking beads you spend so much money on that you only wear once to a party that no one really cares if you attended or not.
As we can see, the list could be endless, and yes; I invite you to add your list to the comment section of this post.
A woman’s worth must and should be measured by more than material things! We will take a look at what the Bible says about acceptance in upcoming posts.
Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in Thy sight , O Lord, my Strength and my Redeemer” (Ps. 19:14)
Meditate on the Psalm above and let the Holy Spirit reveal His purpose to you. Only then will you be able to intently impact others in a meaningful way that will be both beneficial to you and them.
Until next post, keep it classy and keep it joyful in the Lord where your strength lies!
-Bridget
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